Friday, October 2, 2009

All the Questions Answered

Thank you all for the wonderful questions. I look forward to sharing all the answers with all of you. So lets get started. There are so many wonderful questions and it has taken me awhile to answer all of them with lots of details. Plus Chad has been on a business trip this week and just got home last night so I thought it would be best to cook for him and spend time with him than blog. The questions are in no particular order as I just listed them as they came in. I hope that I do not bore anyone and that you all enjoy reading all my answers. Sorry for the long post.
1. Are there any answers on why we are battling infertility? Did any doctors have a specific diagnosis? What fertility specialist did we go to?
We have no specific diagnosis for our infertility it is just a matter of unexplained infertility. We pray everyday for a miracle. We have been to the Tulsa Fertility Center with Dr. Stanley Prough. We are currently hoping that we can get pregnant with without fertility treatments as it is expensive and we need to save in order to do any future treatments. This is a personal decision and I don't want to go into DEBT to have a baby. When the time is right we will go back and seek help, but I secretly hope that we don't have to walk down that road again.

2. How did I end up in Arkansas from Montana?
I moved to Arkansas the year I graduated from college. At the time I was dating a NOW friend of mine Brian and he was going to U of Arkansas. We had been dating for about three years when I moved to Arkansas, however during those three years I think we dated long distance for a year and once I moved to Arkansas we discovered that we are better friends than boyfriend and girlfriend. So after four years (I think) we ended our relationship and I moved from Fayetteville to Bentonville as I was working at Walmart Home Office and it was more convenient. Brian and I are still great friends. I have no regrets on moving to Arkansas from Montana. In fact it was the best decision for me in my professional career. I don't think I would be where I am if I would have stayed in Montana to pursue a career in Business. I love going to Montana to visit and I appreciate the state and the beauty so much more, but Arkansas is my home. I hope I gave you enough details. I could go on and on, but I don't want to bore you.

3. How did Chad and I meet?
I did address this question when I did our 3 Year Wedding Anniversary Post, if you missed it go and check it out
here. I love Chad and my life with him! I would not change it for anything.

4. Decorating ideas and where do I get some of my decor in my house?
My favorite places to go is local boutique's in our town as I feel they have unique decor items. So unless you live in Northwest Arkansas it will be tough to get some of the decor I have in my house. But I will tell you that I do try to be thrifty when decorating our home. One secret I can share with you is I do try to buy glass items so they can be changed up for each season with little money. This way when I get tired of what I have in them I can go out and buy something new instead of replacing the entire decor item. I also wait until items go on sale, especially if they have a lot of them on hand. My secret to seasonal decor items is that usually wait until the season is over because most of the local boutiques have 50% sales after the season. This way next season I can put something new out for that particular season. So if you like something wait until after the season is over and maybe you will get lucky and get it for half off. I did participate in Kelly's Show Us Your Life Weeks when we showed different rooms in our house. If you would like to go back and take a look at any of my rooms here are the links.
My Foyer/Entry Way, Master Bedroom, Laundry Room, Bathrooms, New Powder Bathroom, Office, Guest Rooms, Living Room, and my Kitchen.
I can tell you that most of our larger furniture pieces (dining room and kitchen table, foyer stand, bar stools, office furniture) came from
IO Metro. Our leather furniture and TV Stand in our living room is from Sam's Club. The rug and pillows in our living room are from Pottery Barn. The lamps on our end tables are from IO Metro. The rug under our breakfast table is from Pottery Barn and the rug under our Dining Room table is from Target. Our master bedroom bed, bedding, and curtains were made from a local store called M Grace. Chad and I helped design this room and it is my favorite room in our home. Needless to say it will not be changed for a very long time. If after you look at all the past posts if you have any questions on where I got a specific item let me know. I did receive specific questions that I will answer below.

Where did I get the metal happy pumpkins?

I got my Metal Happy Pumpkins from this post from Sign Sealed and Delivered it is a local boutique in our area. Sorry girls!

Door Wreaths for each season?
The door wreaths I have are personally made for me at Sign Sealed and Delivered. This way I can get what I want. I love each wreath I have for my door. So if you would like to see my fall wreath check it out here and look for my Christmas wreath in late November it is my favorite.
Color of Walls in House?
The wall color in our main house is actually a cardboard color. Nothing special but natural. For our master bedroom the wall color is milk chocolate with a baby blue ceiling and a pearl glaze. Our master bathroom is a cooper color glaze. We used a wash cloth and dipped it into the paint and swirled it onto the walls. We did the same thing for our guest bathroom. In our office the walls are a espresso brown and we took a gold glaze with a Walmart bag and rubbed it onto the walls very lightly. If you have a specific questions on our wall colors please leave me a comment. I get asked a lot on what paint we used in our home. I hope these details help.

5. Have I always been into walking? What other things to I do?
I actually enjoy walking, I first started walking because our dog Bella needs to lose weight so we started walking twice a day to see if it helped and it does so now it is some what a habit.
I started listening to christian music a few months ago and really found myself thinking about God and all the Wonderful Things in the World that I have because of him. I also pray for myself and others when walking. It is my way of relaxing and being with God. It brings calm to me during difficult days. However walking is not the only thing that I do. Once in awhile Bella and I will run. I also just started the Shred. I do Pilate's Reformer once a week and Zumba twice a week. Pilate's is so relaxing and a great way to stretch and strength the muscles. Zumba is Latin Dancing and it is a AWESOME workout. So if you have not tired any of the above exercises giving them a try!
6. What type of Dog is Bella? Where did I get Bella's dog bed?
Our dog Bella is a Weimarnaer. I did a post a Bella if you are interested in reading it go here. Bella's dog bed is from Potter Barn. I actually got in online for 50% off. She loves it!
7. Do Chad and I have names picked out for our kids? If we could choose or decide on how many boys and girls what would it be?
Yes we have a few ideas on kids names some of my favorite are:
Alexa
McKenzie
Emme
Isla
Greyson
Conner
Brock
just a few...
If we could choose how many kids and if they are boys are girls what would it be? I have always wanted to have three girls. But I would be happy with just one healthy baby either a girl or boy.
8. What are some things you do when you're feeling down or sad? What gets "Me" back up and going?
When I feel down or sad the one person that makes me feel better is Chad. He always knows how to make me smile and lift my spirits. If Chad is not around walking or exercising usually helps because it gets my mind off of it. Listening to music helps too. Sometimes I just cry and let it out because it has to happen to get rid of the feelings. Over the past several months I have learned to rely on myself or Chad to lift my spirits. I have some great friends that have helped by walking with me or lunch dates to have conversations on how I am doing or just having normal girl conversations. The biggest help this year to me have been two things: 1. This blog - I have met some wonderful people that have helped me in some many ways. 2. God, our church family, and my commitment to him this past year. I have grown closer to him and treasure my growth this past year. There are days that I don't think I would have been able to get through the day without God. This was a GREAT question!
9. Do I have the job of my dreams? If not what would it be?
The job of my dreams is being a Mom. I have always wanted to be a Mom and take care of our little ones. However I would have to say that I do have a great job. I have the ability to work from home and have more flexibility than a normal 8-5 job. That is the best part of my job!
10. What is my favorite color?
My favorite color is dark purple for the Fall season. I love turquoise accessories and basic colors such as black, white, and brown as they are stable colors and great items to accessories.
11. Favorite band/artist?
I am loving David Crowder Band at the moment, but I listen to all types of music.
12. Favorite food?
My favorite food would be chocolate. I love chocolate so much I would rather have dessert than a meal any day. My favorite drink is Chocolate Milk I always start the day with a tall frozen glass of Skinny Cow Chocolate Milk. Yummy!
At the moment I can't think of anything that is my favorite as far as actual food.
13. Do I have long term dreams or goals that I have yet to accomplish?
A long term dream of mine would to travel around the world with Chad and see and experience the world with him. A goal I have is to go on a mission trip and experience the world differently and see the world as many don't see. What an experience that would be! I admire all the wonderful people that go on mission trips!
14. What do Chad and I do to keep our marriage strong and connected especially during our sad days and during our journey to become parents? Do we do something each day for each other?
Chad and I respect each other as individuals. We both live our life's as individual people that are married. We still do the things that make us happy. Chad works out each day if it is working out with his trainer or running this is his individual desire and I admire him for doing things for himself. I workout and spend time with friends individually and that is important for me. So what I am saying is that we do things for ourselves and I think that is important in any marriage. I would say that Chad has made sure that we remain strong and connected during our sad days. He will sit with me and listen to my sad thoughts and always seems to find away to lift my spirits. I would say that Chad is the rock in our marriage. During the week when we are not busy each night Chad and I will make dinner together I cook and he cleans up. Than after dinner while we watch TV we usually play cards. It is a great way for us to connect and have fun versus sitting and not talking. During the weekend we spend it together running errands or going on dates. We always try our best to stay connected and be strong for one another. Lastly before we go to bed we will talk and share our feelings before we fall asleep so when we wake they are no longer on our mind. I love my relationship with my husband and it has become so much stronger through our journey through infertility.
15. What is my favorite memory in life?
This is a tough one to answer so I am going to do some thinking and answer on a new post soon. So stop by next week for the answer to this question. What a GREAT question!

16. Do Chad and I have nicknames for each other?
Chad calls me sweetie when he calls me on the phone. He also calls and says, "How is the Most Beautiful Girl in NWA?" I just laugh and smile when he says this to me. I think I call Chad sweetie too when I call him. So nothing special or exciting to share...sorry!

17. If I was sent to a deserted island, what are the three things (non living) that I would bring with me and why?
I would bring the following three things:
1. Water
2. Peanut Butter
3. Deodorant

18. If I could travel for a year with no restrictions where would I go?
I would go on a Europe Tour, Aruba, Australia, and visit many of the US States that I have not been too. It would be so much fun to travel with no restrictions.

19. Do I have any childhood best friends? Are we still friends?
My childhood best friend was my twin sister Amie and of course we are still best friends today.

20. Do I put on my left or right shoe on first?
I put on my right shoe first. I think it is because I am left handed, but I am not sure!

21. If someone gave me a blank check with no monetary restrictions, how much do I think I would spend and on what?
This is a tough question. I would first pay off everything that we owe (mortgage, cars, land) and than I would build the home of my dreams with all my favorite decor items. I would travel with my family. I would also make sure that both our parents were taken care of so they didn't have to worry about anything at all in the future. I would give money to all my sisters so they did not have to worry about anything at all in the future. I would give to others in need. So I think that I would need a lot of money to accomplish this, however I am happy with what I have now. That is a tough question and I just hope that I answered it with respect.
22. Have Chad and I considered adoption?
We have talked about it briefly, but I strongly believe that it has to be right in our hearts to pursue adoption and at the moment we are not there. I still have hope and faith that we will have children naturally. I believe that adoption is a wonderful thing and a true blessing for both the child and the soon to be parents. If we were told we can't have children or could see the future and know for sure that it was true than 100% I would adopt. Only time will tell!
Thank you all for the wonderful questions. I hope that it was worth the wait and you enjoyed reading my answers. Again if you have any questions please leave me a comment. I really tired to stay true to myself and be honest and open with everyone. I hope you can all respect that.
Happy Friday!

12 comments:

Rachel H. said...

Great answers! So interesting to learn more about you! :)

Todd and Courtney said...

This was fun getting to know more about you!

Katie Spinks said...

Melissa I loved reading your answers... you are a very special person and I pray daily for you!!

Megan said...

Great answers! Thanks so much for taking the time to do this. It was great "getting to know you" more. =D

Natalie said...

This was such a fun post! I loved reading your answers and getting to know you a little better :) Those were some really good questions! I thought that it was funny that Emme and Greyson are two of the names that I love too! Thanks for sharing...you are such a sweetheart! Have a great weekend!

The Trendy Couple said...

Thanks for the inside scoop! You have lots of unique home decor places around you! I wish Pa would have more :( Your fertility story is extactly like ours and then one day we figured out we were prego... just wait on God as hard as that is!

MOMSWEB said...

Nice getting to know you! I'm glad I dropped by today.

Karen said...

It was so great to get to know you even more. What a great post. I love your home decor taste and am dying over the three apothecary jars in your kitchen. We have a new construction home too and I have had so much joy in decorating it.
I also wanted to sincerely tell you not to give you on your dream to have a baby. We tried for three years and I can certainly understand your feelings on where to draw the line with the dream of having a baby and the expense. It's such a hard decision to make, you will know when you are ready to take the next step. I wanted to share with you my success story. I was on the fence for a year about getting the laproscopy surgery to test me for endometriosis. We were also unexplained up until that point and it was very frustrating. It was hard to want to go through with the surgery knowing that I may come out of it still without answers. I didn't have any symptoms of endometriosis so even more reason not to go through with it. I didn't even know if our medical insurance covered it and knew it could potentially mean thousands of dollars in bills for a surgery that may not even help me. I ended up contacting several people in our benefits area at work until I got a straight answer that a laproscopy would be 100% covered. After 6 failed IUI treatments with Femera, I decided to go ahead with the laproscopy. Sure enough, my RE found a mild case of endo and immediatly became pregnant the cycle afterwards. I did end up miscarrying that pregnancy but as soon as we were able to try again, we got pregnant with the baby I am now carrying. I think it's safe to say that the endometriosis, as mild as it was, was causing our infertility issues. I know every situation is different but felt compelled to share with you my storey. I wish you the best of luck and pray that God blesses you one day.

Take care.

Karen

The Pifer's said...

I loved reading your Q&A's, alot of your answers were exactly our life and how we feel about things too...thanks for posting this :)

Hansen Family said...

thank you for answering my question and enjoyed reading the other responses. love you and have a nice weekend

Brooke said...

I enjoyed getting to know you a little more. I just looked at your "Show Us Where You Live" posts, and your home is beautiful!

The Guerra's said...

What kind of work do you do that allows you to stay home?

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